Hi, I’m Lindsey Bourne & I’m so glad you found me!

I’m a trauma-informed coach on a mission to support couples navigate the deep waters of relationships and intimacy.

I’m endlessly fascinated by human psychology and the subconscious mind—especially how the latter informs our romantic relationships. I’ve dedicated my career to helping folks bring awareness to their relational patterns, disrupt old narratives and limiting self beliefs, and increase their self worth in order to step into emotional sovereignty.

My work stirs up emotional truths, encouraging clients to recognize where they are stuck in order to confront their fears, insecurities, and subconscious wounds—especially in relationships. I help people recognize where they are holding themselves back and guide them toward emotional liberation, self-responsibility, and self-trust.

What makes me truly unique as a couples coach is my Master’s Degree in Integral Counseling Psychology and my training in Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT). 

I live and work in the Bay Area, and offer my services virtually. In addition to my work here, I facilitate narrative therapy groups at San Quentin for incarcerated veterans who have PTSD, nerd out on old-time music and clawhammer banjo, and spend a lot of time in the trees and hills of Oakland.

Trainings & Background

  • California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS), M.A. in Integral Counseling Psychology, Graduate Student

  • MFT Trainee at the Pierce Street Integral Counseling Center in San Francisco

  • Intimacy From the Inside Out (IFIO) couples training with the IFS Institute

  • Reiki Level 1 Certification

  • 10 years working in social/racial justice arts nonprofits in HR, finance, & operations

✦ MY GENIUS IN COUPLES WORK ✦

  • Quickly identifying the unique power struggle in each relationship—and how it mirrors each person’s attachment wounds.

  • Bringing compassion and precision to emotional dynamics, patterns, and protective parts, making folks feel seen and giving them hope for a new way of relating.

  • Seeing the deeper wounds beneath reactivity and conflict — a natural gift in my work with couples and individuals.

  • Showing others what aligned relationship and conscious love can look like, rooted in emotional depth and self awareness.

  • Helping others name their inner experience.

  • Helping folks use their relationship as a vehicle for deep personal transformation and a corrective emotional experience.