ABOUT ME

Hi, I’m Lindsey Bourne & I’m so glad you found me!

I’m a trauma-informed coach on a mission to support folks navigate the deep waters of relationships and intimacy.

I’m endlessly fascinated by human psychology and the subconscious mind—especially how the latter informs our romantic relationships and experiences. I’ve dedicated my career to helping folks bring awareness to their relational patterns, disrupt old narratives and limiting self beliefs, and increase their self worth in order to step into emotional sovereignty.

My work stirs up emotional truths, encouraging clients to recognize where they are stuck in order to confront their fears, insecurities, and subconscious wounds—especially in relationships. I help people recognize where they are holding themselves back and guide them toward emotional liberation, self-responsibility, and self-trust.

What makes me truly unique as a couples coach is my Master’s Degree in Integral Counseling Psychology and my training in Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT).

I live and work in the Bay Area, and offer my services virtually. In addition to my work here, I facilitate narrative therapy groups at San Quentin for incarcerated veterans who have PTSD, nerd out on old-time music and clawhammer banjo, and spend a lot of time in the trees and hills of Oakland.

Trainings & Background

California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS), M.A. in Integral Counseling Psychology
MFT Trainee at the Pierce Street Integral Counseling Center in San Francisco
Intimacy From the Inside Out (IFIO) couples training with the IFS Institute
Reiki Level 1 Certification
10 years working in social/racial justice arts nonprofits in HR, finance, & operations

✦ MY GENIUS IN relational WORK ✦

Hold space for what’s been buried, help you rewrite the script, and walk with you as you choose a new way of being and relating
Help you shift from self-protective, low-self worth patterns into self-honoring, aligned action
Bring compassion and precision to emotional dynamics, patterns, and protective parts, making you feel seen and giving you hope for a new way of relating
See the deeper wounds and beliefs beneath what’s playing out
Help you use relationships and dating experiences as a vehicle for deep personal transformation and growth

I’d love to support you in breaking free from your past & creating something different—starting from within.

WORK WITH ME

MY COACHING METHOD

UNDERSTAND

Slow down, listen in. Through somatic attunement, we track nervous system cues and name how protective parts (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) surface in real time—so you can begin to feel what’s actually happening beneath the trigger or activation.
UNCOVER

We trace the pattern back to its origin—early attachment moments, family dynamics, and cultural/societal messaging—to reveal the limiting self belief that still runs the show and keeps you stuck in a loop you didn’t choose and/or you’ve outgrown.
REWIRE

With the body on board, we rewrite your story through secure actions, clear boundaries, and relationships that reflect your true self worth—and integrate a new way of being: grounded, self-honoring, and connected to yourself and others.